slow and gentle does the trick

lay facing each other, then slowly start kissing him/her gently on the lips then slowly start sucking on the bottom lip (gently), then slowly (slow is the key word here)put your tongue in their mouth, repeat this many times, if you want to spice it up, when they put their tongue in your mouth suck on it, it's fun trust me...make sure to look into their eyes often and run your fingers through their hair. This isn't crazy and wild but believe me it's passionate and creates feelings of intimacy.