Be Independently Happy

You love your partner, of course. But you should not rely on your partner to MAKE you happy. You shouldn't be miserable without your partner, and therefore blame your partner for making you sad by being away or not perfectly affectionate or whatever.

You should be a happy person with your life. You should have friends you enjoy, hobbies you enjoy, a life you enjoy. Of course you should want to share that with your partner, who you love! But your partner should be a joyful ADDITION to your life - not a "toy" that performs for you and keeps you entertained.

The more that you force your partner into the "make me happy!" role, the more you are going to wear out your partner and also set yourself up for disappointment.