Babysitting your boyfriend

some girlfriends have control issues - where they check their boyfriend's voicemails and emails (unbeknownst to him) just to monitor his coming and going. They meddle and interfere with his relationships behind his back; sometimes he thinks the other people have the problem, but it is her instigating it, because she doesn't want to share him with anyone.

To have to manipulate and control your partner this way indicates extremely low self worth; lack of trust in the partner; feeling a bit too needy - that you do everything for him, even handle his own personal unfinished business just so you can win him over, blind him to your insecurities. Sorry, but you will suffocate the guy out of your life - he'll catch on and no one likes to be manipulated or controlled like that.