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General stuff (long, but please, its worth it)
Guys, every girl is different, and we all want different things. There's no magical answer that's going to tell you exactly how to treat your girl. However, there's a couple guidelines that you should probly follow to figure out what it is your girl needs from you.
1. Protection: Girls like to be protected by guys. It's in our instincts to go for a man who we think will be able to provide for us and look after us. HOWEVER, this does not mean we want someone who think's we're a piece of glass who need to be protected from everything, including ourselves. You have to give us enough space to be ourselves, but genereally listen you your girl and try to figure out what she needs. Ask yourself, 'Does she look like she wants me to protect her, or can she handle this on her own?' Some girls are independent and can take care of themselves most of the time. This doesn't mean that they don't need you, it just means they don't want to feel weak or 'girly' and needy. They still need your support. Vice versa, some girls like to be taken care of 24/7. I'm sure this would get frustrating for some guys, because those girls have been described as being needy. If your girl needs you to protect her and take care of her all the time, and you get annoyed by that, try to give her a break and realize that that's just the way she is, and if you really love her then you will be who she needs you to be. If you can't do that, maybe you're not the right guy for her.
2. Romance: Again, every girl has her own personal taste in this category. Some things you might think are romantic she wouldn't consider to be, and sometimes the things she wants you to do in the way of romance you see as unneccesary and soppy. Also, some girls don't need a lot of romance, some do. Its unique to everyone. The basic idea, again, is to listen to her and pay attention, especially in the early stages of your relationship. Lots of times, girls will try to hint to guys that they like/ are in a relationship with the things that they feel would be romantic, or things that they would want you to do for them. If you're paying attention, you might want to think about doing one or two of them for her. Not only will it be the kind of romance she wants, but you also prove that you pay attention and listen to her. Girls don't want to have to tell you what they want. They want you to figure it out on your own, we see it as a test of your love and as more romantic if you can do it by yourself. Do your best as far as this one goes, guys, I know its a tough one.
Fun: THE KEY TO GIRLS IS FUN!! Most girls don't want to have a relationship where you constantly talk about your love and devotion and you go out to fancy restaurants all the time and everything whenever you're together is about love and stuff. Take the time to relax and have fun once in a while, and she'll love you for it. When guys start going down the 'Serious' road too early, girls have a tendency to think that they're no fun and/or get scared by the level of deepness thats going on. That kind of stuff is important, but taking the time to just have a blast can strengthen your relationship so much. it allows you to have time to build the core friendship that should be the building block of your love.
Compliments: Girls like to be complimented, but ONLY IF YOU MEAN IT!! Girls have this amazing ability to see through false compliments and ones that are made just because you think you should say them. Doing this is a guaruntee to making her think you're just complimenting her to make conversation, and she's not gonna respect you for that. On the other hand, girls will absolutely ADORE you if you say nice things about them (not just physical, btw, mental and personality-wise too!) and they can tell you actually MEAN them. Tons of brownie points for those! But remember, don't go too deep with all this, because you may scare her off. See Fun above. :-)
Comfort: When you're girl is feeling down on herself or about life in general, you're going to have to figure out your own way to make her feel better. But, being cute and nice are usually a good place to start. Start off by listening to her, ask her to tell you what's bothering her and listen to what she has to say. Dont interupt unless it looks like she wants you too. Just let her know you're there for her. When she's done, pull her in close to you and let her cry if she needs to, and be sweet and caring toward her. Give her any bits of advice you may have on her situation, but don't lecture her. You're just trying to make her feel better. Finish off by telling her that you love her no matter what, and that you'll always be there for her. You better mean it, or it'll come off badly. If you're not going to mean it, just tell her she's wonderful in your eyes and nothing's going to change that. Then its a good idea to find some sort of chocolate or ice cream and fix it up for her, and then do something fun with her.
PMS: (Promise this is the last one). If your girl gets really snappy once a month, this is probably why. PMS involves pain and mood swings for the majority of girls, and its no wonder we're crabby. This is the category where its especially important to realize that every girl is different. Some of the tips below might not be helpful with your girl. The best way to find out is to be cautious and try one after the other until one makes her happy, but don't be too insistent. If at any time she tells you to back off or something similar, respect her wishes and gve her some space.
My first suggestion (because its something I would like) would be for you to just pull her in for a GENTLE hug (remember, if she has cramps shes not going to appreciate a squeeze.). This could be tricky though, because some girls don't like to be touched when they're PMSing. If she doesn't want to be hugged, just back off and take her hand, say something sweet. Some girls may appreciate a shoulder rub. In general, the best thing to do is to go along with whatever she wants, don't be combative, and just generally be nice to her. If she doesnt want you to be nice, just leave her alone. She'll be back to normal in a few days. Good luck with this one guys. The most important thing is not to be scared of her unless she wants you to be.
Ok, that's enough, I'm surprised you stuck with me this long. This kind of perseverance is something that some grls would admire. I hope you got something useful out of this, even thought theres tons more I could try to help you with. The most important thing of all (and thats why i saved it till last, so you had to stick it out to hear it) is to listen to her. She'll tell you what she wants, either through words, hints, or body language, but you just have to be paying attention and listening. The best of luck to you.
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