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Delusions of Grandeur
In the humble beginnings of your long distance relationship, it is very likely you and your distant love are planting seeds within each other’s heart; ones which ultimately are desired to blossom once you are finally together for the rest of your lives. However, within this mutual exchange and sowing of seeds, if your distant loves intentions are insincere, you may find yourself holding onto a relationship that is untrue. In your discussions of love and what makes each of you so very special to the other, if your distant love is tainted (for whatever reason), they may plant seeds designed to induce you further into the relationship. And in the context of love, these additional seeds may seem like the icing on the cake – they may have the affect of inspiring you to love, be with, and devote yourself to the person beyond question. Of course, in most instances because you are already in love, you were going to love this person no matter what... Thoughts are these additional elements brought into the relationship are designed to capture you in total ~ to literally secure you in place for the duration. Examples might be offering to pay for your home, cover your children’s college expenses, or to share a life of riches with only YOU. The lure of money combined with the love you are already experiencing may seem like a dream come true. Simple fact is why do you love this person from afar – is it because you truly love them or is it because of what they can do for you? If you are already in love with this person and the mention of finances (or some other element of grandeur) is introduced, particularly in the way of what your distant love can do for you, one needs to seriously consider why and when this element was introduced into the relationship. Was it truly necessary? And even after it has been introduced, whether you sought it or not, has anything tangible ever surfaced from it or was it merely words to help entrance you? Remember the how and why you fell in love and let that always be the focus of your relationship. If your distant love is bringing in some grandeur type element, you should confront them early on to establish ‘WHY’ this was ever brought into the relationship. Chances are, it just might be a ruse designed to distract you while your distant love is in the process of stealing your heart, and anything else you might be willing to give up for the chance at this dream.