I had this feeling that maybe there could be someone else
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
When I first met this guy we spent basically every weekend together but him being new to the city he wanted to meet new friends. Well six months later we are still dating but now we get together on the weekends but on like a saturday afternoon or sunday. He recently told me that i needed to let him know in advance if i wanted to something so he didn't make other plans, well i try and every time i get the same thing well i'm going to my friends for a bbq, or my friends and i are going to the bar to have a few drinks. I'm confronted him about it that is he ashamed of me or something and that i don't want to be pushed to the side anymore. I had this feeling that maybe there could be someone else cause he does have accounts on websites and stuff but i don't know, did he just lose interest in me? Am I just being selfish cause i want to spend time with my boyfriend or could there be a possiblity "friends" is not plural?
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
Ok so I am this person who sought out the advice in the first place. I thought about it over and over again trying to find ways to see if there was someone else, if he was lying about his friends or softball games, so last thursday I called him up and invited myself to his softball game thinking okay he may get nervous and be like no that is ultimately what i was waiting for. When he said he'd love for me to go and even asked if I would sub for a girl I was thrilled. After the game it was cute he walked me to my car and asked if I'm up for shopping tomorrow and of course I said yes, I had my nephew so i was not going back to his place but apparently i am now a regular on the team. Saturday we went shopping, lounged at the house and i asked what he was doing later and when he said going out with "work friends" i was like ok have fun, but when he invited me to go along I was like maybe it was all in my head. He told me that he isn't ashamed of me its just that he doesn't want to me make me feel uncomfortable and didn't know how i would get a long with his friends. So hopefully I am wrong about the other girl but I received this email today saying that I need to let go of the illusions before I mess up the present and what i have in the present can be a long term relationship.
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