I Don't Know how to Ask Her Out
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Original Visitor's Question from a 13-20 year old Male
i am 16m and i live in india. here boy-girl relationships are not encouraged at all. I have had many crushes but sadly none worked, or rather let me say i didnt have the courage to ask the girl out. i have a lot of friends but no girlfriend..
let me get to the point here it all started in a few months ago when i met a girl in my same class but in another division during the meeting for organising Bball tournament. i started talkin to her and slowly i found out that i had a crush on her. But her attitude to me was not Like that so i kept talkin to her,and never mentioned about this . then i found out that even my friend liked her ,but he never admitted it to me. until a month ago when he finally asked her out and she said yes.
My friend who i am talkin about now is not better looking than me, but he knows how to keep a girl company. I dont know what girl needs from a guy?
Now again it is happening to me . i like a girl ,I got really close to her, I talk to her a lot. She knows everything about me and i know her also. she likes me, she is fond of me too. but i dont know how to ask her out (i am scared that after she hears this she may not even talk to me), I cant find ways to spend time with each other. I dont know what to say when i am with her these days. i am slowly drifting apart from her since 2 weeks.
my mind is going haywire, i dont know what to say or do please help!!!!
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Male
I totally sympathise with you and your situation as I am experiencing the same sort of problem and I have forced myself to be prepared to ask the girl that I like out tomorrow when I see her.
This is probably not going to help you much at the moment, but I can honestly say that the only way to get through all the mental torment is to convince yourself that it's something you have to do and that avoiding it simply isn't an option.
I'm sure that you'll feel better after you've asked this person out, because whichever way it goes at least then you'll know where you stand and you can either try and get over it knowing it'll never work out or look forward to happier times with this person.
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