I'm Shy - How do I Ask her Out?



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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
I like this girl that I hang around with, but I'm kind of shy. I've known her for three years and I know her likes and dislikes and she knows mine. I'm afraid I'll get rejected by her because she might just think of me as her friend only. so I don't know what to do in this situation.




User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Male
Let this one go


I'm sorry to say this bud, but you're going to have to let this one go. I'm quite in the same boat as you, and have been in this situation before. You will get rejected because she does think of you as a friend only. If you've been friends for 3 years, and she WAS interested, she would have made it painfully obvious.

If you make the attempt, you will get a "We should just be friends" response. Its unfortunate, but at that point you will need to decide if you want just another friend who you will have to look at and lust after, but who you know will never return the feeling. So either sit on your hands and be her friend (and be miserable), or just break off the friendship after a failed attempt at initiating a relationship. Not every story has a happy ending.

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