He Pushed for Marriage, Accused Me of Cheating then Cheated Himself
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I'm 20 years old and I've been together with my boyfriend for about a year. Three months after we began dating he asked me to marry him and I said yes. Shortly after that he constantly accused me of cheating, saying that I was being too polite towards customers at my work so in his eyes something else was going on, ect.
I tried very hard to prove my love and loyalty to him. Three months after asking me to marry him he cheated on me with a woman we both worked with. I felt so hurt and stupid when I found out he did it all under my nose, with a friend of mine none the less! I have cut off my friendship with that woman but I don't know what to do about my boyfriend.
He apologized after he told me, but then wanted to forget about it. Everytime I've tried to talk to him about how I feel he gets very angry and makes me feel like I'm a bad person for not forgiving him. I still love him very much and have been trying to deal with this but I can't seem to completely forgive him. What should I do?
User Submitted Advice from a 41-50 year old Female
This guy is one selfish and immature dude!For him to ask you to marry him,then,cheat on you shows how emotionally retarded he really is.Marriage is a lifelong commitment,not something just to leap into and take lightly!He also sounds like the jealous type which means he is also very insecure to boot! If I were you,I would distance myself from this man.If you do marry him,you are going to in a lot of heartache.
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