Just wants to be friends
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Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
There is this girl at school. She thinks im stalking her but im not. She is paranoid at me. We use to be friends because of this she hates me and i still want to be friends with her. So far what i have done is just left her alone and havnt been around her much. She knows i have feeling for her and i still do but im over that and i just want ot be friends with her. PLZ I need your help what should i do?
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
Leave her room
Or... You can just decide to try the last option since you've tried everything else to only get negative feedback. That would be to just read all the red flags and leave her alone. If she haven't already verbally expressed how she wants distance from you, "..She thinks im stalking her..", "... She is paranoid of me...", she has definately expressed if physically.
Yeah, you may be right, she does know how you feel about her. She also knows that you two used to be friends, but she has still made it clear about what she truely wants out of all of this. If you really cared about her, you would respect her verbal or non verbal messages to you and leave her alone.
Let her come to you since you tried coming to her on several occassions and she has turned them down. If you don't you could lose her indefinately and leave her of an even bitter taste in her mouth about you. Can you blame her if the tables were turned? Good luck and actively go out to meet other people or get involved in something! It'll occupy your time so you wont have these excessive thoughts about her.
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