We often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions.
Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
It's hard for me to be myself around guys I like, in fact it's hard for me to be myself around anyone really because I don't know who the real me is. I guess I just change into the person I think they will like, I know this is an aweful shallow thing to do and that I should just be myself but I can't. Will a guy ever like me for just being myself? From what I see they only seem to go for the girls who are skinny, large chested, tanned, bloneds that will do anything that are easy. I really want a boyfriend, but nobody ever seems to like me in that way, I don't know what's wrong with me. I thought that it could be because I'm really short for 15 I'm 4"10. Guys may have liked me in the past but they never say anything to me about it, but there always just seems to be someone out there that is better than me, sure I'm good but there are so many others that are great. How do I stick out to guys without acting like someone else?
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Male
In the mall
Hey, there! I'm a 17-year-old guy and I am a lot taller (5'8"). I am in the exact same situation, but a lot WORSE!!! I tell myself to say hi to a lot of girls but I never do! I've been like this for more than 3 YEARS! Talk about being VERY shy with girls!
One of the GREATEST ways to practice talking to guys is the mall, so head out to your local mall someday. Look for guys that you think are in your age group. When walking by, smile and say hi to them. Ask a guy where a store is or when the mall closes. Do this to as much as you can. Don't do this to get a boyfriend. Do this to practice talking to guys! The more you practice, you will realize you can talk to anyone! All this is what I would do.
I wish you the best of luck!
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