He cheated on me but says he is sorry
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Original Visitor's Question from a 41-50 year old Female
I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO. I WAS OR AM NOT EVEN SURE IN A RELATIONSHIP FOR THREE YEARS. FOR THE PAST THREE MONTHS ME AND MY BETTER HALF HAD PROBLEMS HE CHEATED ON ME AND BUT SAYS HE IS SORRY AND HE WANTS TO STILL BE WITH ME BUT HE CAN NOT LEAVE HER EITHER. HE SAYS I AM THE GREATEST THING HE HAD IN BED AND THAT HE NEEDS ME IN HIS LIFE YET HE STILL WANTS TO BE WITH HER TOO. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO. I LOVE HIM VERY MUCH BUT I DON'T WANT TO BE WITH HIM HALF WAY . SHE DOES'NT KNWO ABOUT ME BUT I KNOW ABOUT HER. MY MIND GOES CRAZY THINKING HE IS WIHT HER. HE SAYS NOTHING SEXUAL HAS HAPPEN . HE CALLS ME EVERYDAY BUT WEEKEND COMES AND I DON'T HEAR FROM HIM.
WHAT DO I DO ? SHOULD I LEAVE HIM AND DON'T TURN BACK.
User Submitted Advice from a 41-50 year old Female
I stayed with him
i am going through the same thing. he was having sex with her and me. he was lying to me. even when he was caught he lied. i had her on the phone and him standing right there and he was dening their sex. finally he admitted to it. it had been going on for 5 months. he told me there were friends and she knew all about me. i believe they were just friends because he is a very friendly not flirty person. he would call me and tell me her loved me then call her and tell her the same things. i am a crazy tho because i love him and still want him. i see the wrong in it and feel the wrong. i am not strong i feel so broken. i read your letter and know you should run from him as i should. but it is not that easy.
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