Choosing between Two Guys
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Original Visitor's Question from a 13-20 year old Female
Hi. Im a girl in high school and i love 2 guys. Ive been through pain, and hurt, and ive been through love. I know what it feels like to be treated like a princess, and treated like a beggar. i know that i am in love, the problem is it is with two guys. my feelings for them are so strong. one i never can see because he is constantly in different places, the other is at my school but he is always working. one loves me in return, we feel the same way for each other, but he roams from place to place that i never can see him. and they other just calls me from time to time, but he was in an arts class with me and i sat with him and i fell in love.
i do not know what to do. here are two great men, whom i both love, and the reality of it is that i may only choose one. and its so hard, because i will get my heart broken either way, or i could be making the wrong decision and lose the greatest guy ever. now i know that there are millions of other guys out there, but i live everyday as if it were my last. if i dont seize the moment, then i will never know if i will love again. please help me in my decision. i dont want to screw up. thank you
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
Think and Choose
I just want you to know that you are NOT alone, trust me. There are heaps of other girls out there in the same situation as you, including (as you may have guessed) me!
My situation is almost identical to yours, a little more complex I guess. Two of my friends are trying to set me up, each with a different guy. Let me give you the low-down.
GUY NUMBER ONE: We know each other. He used to like me, but I treated him really badly because I was insecure. I actually liked him at the time, but that was almost 4 years ago, and right now I'm not really sure where I stand. We're good mates, but it is a little awkward. I really like him, and I feel like he likes me too.
GUY NUMBER TWO: We've never met, but have heard alot about each other. He is the best friend of my best friends boyfriend, so I feel like it would be really cool for us to hang out together. His friend (my besties bf) is a really nice guy, so I feel confident in meeting him and getting to know him.
As you can see, the situation is very awkward becoz I found myself with a bit of a frisson for each of the guys, even of the one I havent met.
However what I found worked was turning to God. I'm a Christian, so I simply asked God for a sign of who was the better guy for me. I'm not going to go into details, but I picked guy number two.
Dont be afraid to ask God for help, or anyone else. God loves you and He is there for you all the time. He watches over all of us, all the time, and he created each and every one of us, so I think He is the best guy to make the decision!
Just a few words of advice, hope they help you!
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