I Lie to Make Him Jealous
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
My husband and I are almost married for almost 2 years. We have a one year old which we love to death.
Now my problem is that me and my husband are not getting along. Meaning he never shows he is anger like for an example I told him that I have been cheating on him which is not true I would not do that it is to painful. Anyways just to see his reaction. Nothing! Didn't get upset. No nothing.
He is the type of person that doesn't seem to get angry no matter what. I think he is not even jealous if I go out with some tight clothes on and dancing with some guys. Makes me feel like he wouldn't care at all. Makes me feel I am not worth it. Makes me feel I am not hot, sexy or beautiful. No matter what happens it doesn't matter to him.
My case I am sort of a aggressive person and I just want him to be that type of person. Or better yet I can feel it inside that he is. But doesn't show. Why? Because I am not that pretty sexy person in his eyes that is the way I see it. I hope you can understand what I am saying.
Yes, yes you can't change a person. And that is why I am stuck here.
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
Help Him Feel More Manly
Hi, well first of all i think you shouldn't say outrageous stuff like you've been cheatin gon your husband...he probably won't believe you because he has known you for a long time and probably knows your lying, hence no dramatic reaction. Secondly, i understand and agree that it's healthy for the guy to be a little posessive, so you can feel he wants you so I'd suggest you should go out more with him to places where you and him can feel extremely sexy with him and you should do outgoing things that will just get him going in ways he couldn't believe. That could help with you feeling more sexy. Also I'd recommend that you hit the low on the angryness and let him feel in some ways he's more ...manly.
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