Overcoming my Jealousy
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
My girlfriend and I have been dating for a little over a year now, and of course we have had our ups and downs. I have always been a little jealous of her past b/c she has cheated before, but she has told me over and over again that she wants to spend her life with me, and I honestly believe her and feel the same way.
She has a few guy friends that would want nothing more than to be with her, but she says that she has made it clear to them that she is not interested and that she loves me. I found a text message on her phone that had a ryming poem in it that ended with "can't wait to see you soon" it was from one of these guys, I asked her about it and she just said that she didn't tell me because she didn't think it was important, and of course I got jealous and we argued and accomplished nothing.
She really doesn't hide things from me though.. so should I be upset? Also recently, she has begun to spend a lot of time with another guy for school projects. I get so upset when they spend time together. All I can think about is her finding qualities in him that she likes better than me. It is really ridiculous! She says she has no feelings for him.
Today, we agreed to separate and work things out because she says that I am no longer the man that she fell in love with. What can I do to deal with my jealousy issues. I love her and cannot stand not having her in my life.
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
She will not hide
To make U rest assured, I think she will let U know all mess from other if U want.She will not hide anything from U
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