She'll Snuggle in Private but Not in Public
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
I have been dating a girl for about 2 months since sept. She broke up with her ex of 4 years last December but she said she only finally got over him just before we starting dating. Now she tells me that she feels for me, but whe wants to make sure of her feelings, to make sure that she isn't on a rebound.
We behave like a couple when there isn't anyone around. Behave like platonic friends when there are other people around or in public. Won't even let me hold her hand in the shopping mall, only in elevators or in unpopulated areas. I am starting to feel like a secret lover. She is saying that we should take it slow, I guess thats a good thing... but we still have intimate contact and everytime that happens, I invest more feelings in this relationship. How do I keep myself from investing?
My friends are telling me "You should stop calling her for a while, let her sort herself out... if she misses you she'll call you. Protect your own heart." Ok so I got convinced and I told her "Let me know when your heart is free to love again, when that happens and you still feel for me, I'll be here waiting."
Did I do the right thing? Should I stop seeing her for a while? How do I deal with missing her....
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
Maybe She is Shy
She is ready but she does not know why she wants to keep in public. I think she waits until 2 become more intimate, she will publicize. May be she is shy to do st like that under the eyes of everyone. That is her nature and pls sym for her.
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