No sex life
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
hey. Im in a long term relationship comming up on 2yrs and 8months. there has been good and bad times like any other relationship, we survived a break up about 3months ago, ive got through depression and she has got through her probs, despite all that we have been through we have been there for each other through thick and thin. after we got back together for the 1st month it was still fragile, but she told me that she still loved me more than anything and i felt the same. I decided that i had to stop being so dependant on her and i think i am doing well with that she even mentioned it herself that i am. since the split she has mad like a massive effort for us, and i give it in return. I have got to a place now where i feel the relationship is working properly. The thing is our sex life doesnt exsist. i know it is the not the most important thing in a realationship but it is a big part. the only girl ive ever loved and fell in love with doesnt want to have sex with me, i have been supportive and told her its no biggy and at first this was true, but now thats no more the case. i was thinking the other day how easy it wud b to cheat and get away with it, i wouldnt do that but that thought scares me coz i do not want to chuck away what i have. she did tell me that she would feel rushed if we had sex now, but its been about 6months since we last had sex.
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
The Wedding Night
I am confesssed it is very natural to ALL MEN but That should be happen after 2 become 1, that means they have legal relationship. Happen in advance wed not good at all becthere is nothing interests or exploration of each other on Wed night!
[RomanceClass says - I hardly think the main point of getting married is to have a fun wedding night :) Most people in modern times have sex before they get married - the point of getting married involves other legal and social ties :) ]
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