I am a college graduate that wants to do more with my life
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
My boyfriend is a twenty six year old father of a 10 and 8 year old. I took this on out of my own willing, but now, (he has no GED) I am a college graduate that wants to do more with my life than babysitt. We are immulsed in a custody battle with his ex--who is a drug addict and horrible woman, and it is all of my own doing. I have put up this fight, and I am slowly but surely gaining that his children be given to him, though I know in my heart that without me, he cannot be a good parent. I am 21 years old, and am dumbfounded. Not only am I now raising his children, dealing with my restraining order against his insane ex-girlfriend, going to graduate school, etc... but I dont even like him anymore. He says things, mild insults if you will, that I hate, and I get upset, and he throws 2 year old temper tantrums. Also--he can be so mean to his children, grabbing their faces to tell them what to do, smacking them on their butt if they "don't listen" and I hate it. It does not happen when I am there, and I know that I am their savior. I am lost. I have sex with him because I dont want him to throw a tantrum and get pissy. I hate this. I am a good person, and the people that he is associated with (his ex mostly) have turned me (at times) into somebody I am not.
This story is so very much longer, and I feel that this synopsis does not tell what I need for it to, but this is what I have to give to a website, a synopsis. Not even lawyers will hear me, regarding the children anyway. I AM ONLY STILL HERE FOR THEM. Please, anyone who can give HONEST advice, help?
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
I never thought about it like that. Thank you, so much, though I am not sure of what I will do, your advice is eye-opening. Thank you.
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