They argue about everything
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Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
My boyfriend seems like he hates me. I am one who likes alot of attention and he doesn't like to give it. We have been together for almost 11 months now and in the past two months we have had sex like 5 times. I don't consider that normal for people our age. He seems like he has lost interest in me and now we just argue about EVERYTHING! I was thinking it might be because I moved in with his family and him but every thing has been fine for the past 6 months I have lived here until now. What do I do?
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
You're Not Alone
I'm having a very similar problem with my boyfriend. We've been together over a year and we have sex about as often as you do, maybe less. We're temporarily living at my mother's house. When we fight, I often throw in that we hardly ever have sex, accuse him of not finding me attractive anymore, etc. I realize this is not appealing behavior, but it upsets me so much that I end up saying it in frustration. This makes everything worse. He's said part of the reason is because he's not comfortable here but we usually don't even have sex the times we're alone. I know part of why we fight so much is because I'm hurt by his inattention so I act snotty to him, which makes him angry and leads to more fighting or to him paying even less attention to me and resenting me. And so the cycle continues. I'm sorry I don't really have any advice because I'm obviously doing everything wrong myself, but I just wanted to tell you you're not alone in your problem and I can relate to how you're feeling. I hope you (and I) can figure things out.
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