Tell her you care for her
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Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I have fallen for my friend. My best friend, to be exact. I've known her for 11 years (she's 21 and I'm 19), but we never really got to know each other until about six months ago. Sometime around December, I developed some sort of attatchment to her. Since then it's got much more intense. In the past she's stated things such as "You're like the younger brother I never had" and "I wish I could find a guy like that" (the latter in reference to songs about the "nice guy," who I happen
to be). She has also said things pertaining to relationships, but I don't know what to make of
them. For the last few weeks I've been fretting over weather or not I should tell her how I feel. This situation is very confusing to me. I've never had such intense feelings for anyone before. She's the quiet type that's not really
into the dating scene. After seeking adive from others, the guys have said "go for it" while the ladies have said "don't." This baffles me. It's totally stressing me out trying to decide what I should do. I really wouldn't want to hurt her or lose her as a friend. Is there any other way besides directly asking her, to find out if she's interested? Thanks for any insight you can provide.
User Submitted Advice from a 31-40 year old Male
Tell Her Now
Hey you know what would really help? If you grew a pair! you know, just be honost with the young lady, and tell her how it is, how you feel, don't be a little wuss! I mean thats how I got my wife I wasn't sure either but I loved her and I needed her to know before I went off to the First Desert Storm and well now that I just came back from the second war in Iraq I came back only to tell a young lady that her Soon to be husband had died while on duty with me, his last few hours he told me that he loved her and that he was happy to have such a loving women in his life and such a caring friend, so my advice to you son is tell her now! before anything else happen so go grow a pair and let that young women know how you feel, because you never know what could happen.
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