I Like Him - He Has a Girlfriend
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
Hi, I have a problem. It was my best friends birthday this past weekend and her, her bf, her bf'ss friend and his gf and i went out to a club. When my friends bf picked us up they were all in the car. I had never met my friends bf's friends before. i got in the car and there was my friends bf's friend. He was so cute and we hit it off immediately like we honestly connected instantly. But obviosuly he had a gf and i knew i couldnt have him so i blocked him out and just had a good time at the club.
The next night we all hung out agian but this time it was all 5 of us and another guy who was friends with the guy i am crushing on. We went out for a couple drinks and i was sitting beside him and his friend was sitting beside my crushes gf. HIm and i were talking about what movies we liked and music and we likes all the same things and we were laughing and having a great time. meanwhile his friend was buying his gf drinks all night. So, him and his gf went outside for about 20 mins and were fighting (they fight everyday!) they came back in and i asked him if he was alright and he said he didnt know what to do because she always gets mad at him over stupid little things.
I am really starting to like this guy but i realy dont want to be the girl who broke them up but i really like him. Please tell me what i can do because i really cant decide. Thank You
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Male
Leave it, get away. If they're having troubles already, a girl--especially one with a crush--helping the guy out is only going to make things worse. A lot of couples fight everyday but are more commonly positive, so fighting doesn't mean the relationship is bad. I really feel you should stay away from this guy for a while, think about the time maybe this girl felt or still does feel the same connection you do to the guy. The more time you spend with a person, the more you learn what you don't like. People show their best sides when you're first meeting making a lot of people only charming for a while. Maybe keep tabs on the guy from a distance, and if he ends up being single later on, go for it.
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