Is he just using her?
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Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
well, im dating this guy. we 'talked' for forever and a day then he finally asked me out. during the time we were talking our conversations would just be awesome, never running out of things tot alk about and such and he would make it known that he liked me and made an effort to show. now, hes just really short, barely shows affection and sometimes completely ignores me. its hurtful sometimes because...well ill say this at the risk of oversharing...but hell come over to my house, and we'll get into sexual things...not sex, but pretty much everything else. barely ever does he pleasure me, i am constantly doing everything to him. i really really feel like he doesnt like me anymore, and hes just using me now for that pleasure. i feel like im in love with this guy but i cant bring myself to tell him my problems. i HAVE talked to him before, but he doesnt handle that well and almost broke up with me. i love him, but i don't know what to do :(
User Submitted Advice from a 31-40 year old Female
Hey Girl! listen I'm not going to beat around the bush here. But when 2 people are in a relationship there must total love on both sides and that includes the sex thing!!!! Trust do not stay with a guy who is not pleasuring you. YOU do not love this guy! Whats happening is you are feeling abandoned and rejected by his behaviour and as a result you crave him much much trust! I've been there and believe you me... there are loads of gorgeous cute sexy men out there in this world waiting for a great chick like you. Don't cut yourself short. Get rid of him. hes not for you.
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