He's Pushing Me to do something I Don't Want
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Original Visitor's Question from a 13-20 year old Female
My boyfriend and I have been together for over four months now, and We have a really great relationship. We talk every night on the phone for over an hour and we have really great conversation it's never just fluff, were always talking about our relationship and what could make it better and what is already so great about it and things like that. It's just a really great relationship. Every time we are together or we are talking on the phone the time just flies by. When we spend time together we have a short of connection thats unexplainable. We can do anything or be anywhere together and still have an amazing time. We can just sit together and I can put my head on his shoulder and close my eyes and I get this strong feeling inside. But anywayz my question...
My boyfriend and I talk about the physical aspects of our relationship and so far I really like where its at I mean we kiss and stuff we use our hands to "explore" and it's great. I know he wants me to give him oral, but I always looked at that as kind of degrading for girls and guys to do. I would do anything to make him happy, and I mean I guess it really isn't a huge deal. He told me if I did it for him he would return the favor. Is there anything wrong about giving oral? is it degrading? I mean he is 18 and I am 16, we're both in highschool and we suppose to have fun...should this be something that I should consider doing for him?
thankx for your help.
User Submitted Advice from a 41-50 year old Female
Some women enjoy oral sex and others are repulsed by it for various reasons.If you don't like it,keep telling him that you don't care for oral sex.Is there something about the act that you don't like?In my opinion, as long as the guy keeps himself clean and healthy,I see nothing wrong with it.The women that don't like like tell me that its because they consider a penis to be dirty(after all men do urinate from it).But,if you don't care for it,just keep telling him "NO! If you do something that you are repulsed by,you are going to have resentment against him and that is no good at all.Plus, he should have respect for your feelings and opinions too.
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