Forgive and forget?
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Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I've been looking round the website and this is probably pretty typical, but i really need someone's help.
I am 15 and my "boyfriend" is 17. I love him SO MUCH, i really do, and he has always said he loves me too. However, i told him that i wouldn't sleep with him before i was 16, as that's the legal age, and also i didn't feel ready for sex then. He was fine with it, and said he'd wait however long i wanted.
I was on holiday a while ago and when i came back i found he'd cheated on me with another girl, who is also 17 (older than me) and he'd had sex with her more than once. It wasn't him who told me this, it was another friend who'd found out about it. Now everyone seems to know, and the girl he'd cheated with has spread it around the entire school that he only cheated because i wouldn't sleep with him. I don't know if this is true, because it seems so unlike him; he's pretty quiet and is really sweet normally.
I've been totally shattered and heartbroken since i came back from holiday and heard the news, and even though all my friends are telling me he's not worth it, and to move on, i DON'T WANT TO because i need him so much. PLEASE don't tell me i'm too young to be in love, or to move on, because i almost feel like i'd prefer to not know and still be with him than know and be without him.
i do know for certain he cheated, but i don't know how much else of what i've heard is true, and he doesn't have, like, a past of cheating.
Please help me
User Submitted Advice from a 31-40 year old Female
It may not be what you want to hear but on some level you already know it is true...you will save yourself alot of pain and punishment if you let this loser go now...if he cheated on you once he will do it again and again...you may love him..but if he really loved you he would not have cheated...it would be sad for you to allow this guy to be your first sexual experience..also you don't owe it to him because you said you would ...he said he would be faithful and broke his word to you. Save your heart and love for a guy who is worthy of it!
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