Well, It just so happens in the end he did do something with her
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Original Visitor's Question from a 13-20 year old Female
Hello. I wrote to you previously about being jealous & having a boyfriend I thought liked another girl... http://www.romanceclass.com/miscr/advice/2242
Well, It just so happens in the end he Did do something with her & I found out 3 months later..
We were dating for over a year now and in February I found out that he made out with his ex-girlfriend on 2 occassions (The same girl I was always worried about) after I asked him about it.. He denied and the next day he came clean... He said he didn't know how to tell me...
I know, I know, It was stupid but eventually I took him after alot of thinking & talking.. Even my mother told me I should give him one last chance!!!!
So I did.. And things are accually better than ever with us.. Except now, I'm always worried and jealous and cautious... Of course there are still rumors floating around like he did it more times than 2 and stuff but I believe him... But when I do mention stuff to him that I hear he gets mad that I don't believe him.. He also gets mad when I ask him about certain things like "Do you still talk to her"
I know he stopped but I can't help feeling that he secretly started again..
I know I'm psycho, but it's so hard assuming things for 9 months and having everyone tell you you're crazy & psycho, and then just having everything you were suspicious about come true...
I don't want to be like this... I hate how I am.. I know they didn't do anything else but it hurts knowing I never found out about it till much later and that while I was with him he had feelings for her...
Like I said before, I know I was stupid for taking him back but it's been 4 months since then and I can't break up with him now over something I took him back for then.. Let alone I dont want to since everything is pretty much better now between us except for me & all my psycho-ness.. I don't want to have to keep bringing her up but I can't stop thinking about it..
Like I said though, now there probly isen't anything going on with them but I'll always assume it because I was right last time.. And I don't want to keep talking to him about her because I know he gets mad & uncomphortable because I did bring it up alot...
I don't want to break up with him.. I just need some advice.. On how to make myself stop assuming all the time.. Or anything else that might help..
I'd appreciate it alot...
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Male
wow, your story helped me alot! I had a really similar incident, i hope you make it through, and remember, if its meant to be, it will happen, good luck!
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