She's Lost Interest in Me
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
me and my girlfriend been together for 3 years we have a 18 month old son. when he was 10 months old she got a chance to go back to school and take nursing. It happend fast and was hard she had to move with 5 days notice. she would not discuss nothing with me just said she was going.
so we got through that we are both here now but things are not good. she don't have anything to do with me she is very busy and i understand that but she won't make any time for us all she does is go to school come home and sleep. She says that she don't have time to spend with me and say all she cares about is school and the baby and doesn't have time to work on us and our relationship.
we are growing apart and i don't know what to do i try to do everthing at home to give her less stress but it don't work. we have made love maybe 4 times in the last year where she wanted to. most of the time all she does is complain about doing it for me and trys to hurry it and says things to take the mood away.
I don't want to just have sex i want to feel wanted and needed I do love her and my son but been trying to help our relationship for along time by myself and am geting tired. do you have any ideas that might help me.
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Male
I truly empathize with you. My girlfriend, after being together for over 7 months, left me for another guy. She's broken up with him, and went out with another, and broken up with him as well by now. She believes in love at first sight. But the thing is, we're struggling right now to come together again. She said she's given me a second chance, and I so desperately need it. Yet, things still get in the way. One day it seems she hates me, the next she cares about me and loves me. I believe it's her friends and who she's hanging around, but that's not for me to say. All I know is that if I had given up on her, I would've never had this second chance. And if I give up on her now, for sake of my selfishness and my broken heart, I'll never know what we could've been. My advice to you is to hold the fort. Stay strong for her. Establish some self-esteem and show her that you care, but don't take offense to everything she does or says. Care for that boy of yours and show her that you care for him, just as much as she does. You are very lucky that you two are still together. Greet her with a kiss, and keep your head up. Buy her some flowers, a whole bushel of them. Show her you care, but whatever you do. Don't let her see that you're always depressed or sad, because she has enough on her hands to do. My feelings are that you two will always have eachother, and five years from now, you'll look back and see how you both stuck it out. Hold onto her, and don't let her go.
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