I'm Long Distance - Things are Rough
We often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions.
Original Visitor's Question from a 13-20 year old Male
I didnt ever think I would email something like this to ask for advice about a relationship, but I am in the United States Airforce, and I am very far away from home right now, i have a girlfriend I have been dating for a year, we are very serious, and have talked about getting engaged
we are having alot of problems right now though, I dont know how to make it any better, I try as hard as i can to be there for her, but no matter what i say, it seems to make it worst
It's a lot of stress and i know there are others out there in the same situation, please send me some advice on what i should do, i cant live without this girl, and it doesnt seem like its goin to last much longer the way it is going, thanks.
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Male
I know exactly what you're going through. I am currently in a long distance relationship, also, and it has been causing problems for myself and my fiance. For a while, it seemed that nothing would fix our relationship and that we were whipping a dead horse. What fixed our relationship was staring us in the face, though.
What she probably misses the most is you. When you were with her, you probably did all sorts of things together that she loved. Now that you're gone, that has disappeared. The answer is to find new things to do together. Since you can't take a walk together, sing together on the phone. Since you can't rub her shoulders, leave messages on her phone describing the things you love about her. I think you'll have to find your own things, since everybody's different, but that SHOULD start to bring you two closer together.
I'm rooting for you.
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