Is my Girlfriend Cheating
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Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
Hello i have big problems. I have been going out with my girlfriend for 4 months now. She used to live an hour and a half away for the first month and a half we were going out. We are a younger couple. I am 17 she is 16. We met through a friend and i had a girlfriend at the time and she had a boyfriend. After the weekend was over. She left and i thought nothing of it and just thought i would never see her again. Then 10 minutes after she left she called me. JUST TO TALK. Over this weekend i had broken up with my girlfriend. While we talked She asked if i liked her. I told her i dont really know her but i feel like i do like her. A few days later She wanted me to come visit and i found out that she had broken up with her boyfriend of 8 months. We hung out alot and ended up going out and we both felt strong feelings for one another. She lives 20 minutes away now and goes to school there.
The relationship has went well for 3 months now. And i love her more than i have ever loved anything or anybody in my life. I do know that she loves me and feels very strongly for me but i do not know if it is as strong as my love for her. But that does not matter.
But here is the problem. The past few days that i have went to her house to get her. And she was not hiding anything but this dude was hanging out with her just them two. It killed me to see them walking up just them 2. But i gave him a ride home and he knows that i am her boyfriend and she says he has a girlfriend. But then the next day i went to get her and showed up without warning and sure enough her and that guy walked up again. This time he just took off walking home. It hurts me inside.
So we talked about it and she was like what is the big deal. I said that is messed up. I am your boyfriend and you are always hanging out with this dude. I told her i do not like it. She still did not see the big deal. Then the next day here mom said she had to stay home. Or at least that is what she told me but i belive that. But then i called to talk to her at 5:00 , 5:30 , 6:20 , 7:00 , 7:45 , 8:10 , 8:40 , 9:00 , and finaly at 9:40 she answers and i ask were have you been all night? and she just said " UP the Street" and then she was like i met this dude that told me ect... and she is always hanging out with guys. I am not stupid i know that every single one of those guys that she thinks just wants to be friends has a little more than friendship in mind and i do not like that. And she is already a bit of a flirt so she is most likly flirting at least in small ways that are just going to make the guys fall for her more. She is a Beautiful Girl and i am not saying this just cause she is my girlfriend. She is a 10 from 1 to 10. Another thing is she does not know how to say NO! when someone flirts with her.
I dont know if this helps but after we were going out for 2 months we "Made Love" so to say. She was happy but we have not done anything for the past 2 months and all i hear from everywhere is that the sexual relationship is an important part of a relationship. And i read that it is something to look for if your partner is cheating.
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Male
Fish in the Ocean
bro... leave the chick trust me ive been through it i mean look at the clues she was probably over there having fun with all them dudes threw out that time that she didnt answer you just trust me its ganna hurt but you gotta do it you gotta stay strong and do it i got a paranoid mind and i know all this dont let the chick get to your head.! there pleanty fish in the ocean bro
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