why dont i get over this jealousy
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Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
so ive been daitng my bf for about almost 2yrs now and to this day am still so jealous of all his friend at first i had a reason when we started dating because he would put all his friend before me especially one of his girlfriend(just friends)they would spend time together alone all the time like, watch tv together, lunch, dinner etc.. they would just hangout all the time of course he would ask me to go with him but and at times he would just tell well am leaving and would leave to go with her i would get so upset and jealous i hate to feel this way i wouldnt go for the fact that we dont like each other she thinks am ugly and can do way better then me and i dont kno why shes alwyas hated me. well we struggled with this problem for over 11 months until finally we decided to end the relationship because of all the problems. we ended up getting back together again about a month later he told me he was so sorry for everything he has put me through and for putting her before me all the time and begged me to take him back as soon as she found out she got so mad and talked really bad about me and how horriable i was but i always ask myself why does she hate me so bad she has a loving caring bf too. so she stopped tallking as much to my bf but shes still in the picture. during this time my bf has gotten WAY better and has changed. the only thing is that i still get so mad when he goes to her house still i feel so much hate and jealousy i cant get over it and i dont kno why i always get mad at him about it but i just cant see to get over it. i dont want it to ruin my relationship especially now that he has changed but this feeling haunts me please give me adivce so i can move on.....
User Submitted Advice from a 41-50 year old Female
i don't understand why your bf friend has to act as if she is the gf and not you.if i we're you,don't mind her at all.why don't you ask your bf about things that are bothering you,your relationship is only between you and your bf,that girl has nothing to do with you and your bf.stay confident and secure.
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