She suddenly gave me hard smack across the face
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Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
im sort of in a really weird situation right now in my relationship with this girl. about a month ago i met this really sweet girl at a local diner. she and i shared quite a load of common interests and we both seem to enjoy each others company very much. anyways my problem started about a week ago. we've been on about 5-6 dates now and i thought since everythin seems to be going quite smoothly between us, i decided to ask her if she was willing go steady with me. moving on, i planned a nice evening out (but nuthing extravagant) to the ice rink ,since she loved skating a lot, .I could tell she was having a really good time, she was laughin and smiling throughout, all went well untill i opened my mouth and asked her the question i was planing to ask her all day. upon asking her, her face immeadietly turned red, which was kinda creepy considering she's half indian and has a light brown-ish skin tone. she looked at me and suddenly gave me hard smack across the face and yelled that she doesn't want to ever see me again. PLEASE HELP, i have absolutely no idea what i did that upset her, i tried calling her countless of times but all she said was if i cared enough to know her id know tht "it wasn't wht i said but it was how i said it" WHAT THE HELL IS THT SUPPOSED TO MEAN!!!... is "will you go steady with me" some coded girly lingo for something else..??! Please Help!! im at my wits end with trying to get back with her. I love everything about her, asside from the turnin red part she's quite a gal. i don't want to loose her...
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
Did He Propose?
going steady is "girl code" as you said for "he's-saving-up-money-to-buy-me-an-engagement-ring-so-that-we-can-get-married!" You just inadverdently asked her to marry you, and in the Indian culture that's an insult to her family. You have to ask her parents permission first, and that definitely wasn't a very romantic proposal. In essense you just got down on one knee and proposed, but all you did was take her skating, no jewlerly, no fancy dinner, no flowers. Dude, you just insulted her intire culture. I feel bad for you, I have no clue how you're going to get out of this one... my only advice for you, Next time, ask her parents BEFORE you propose...
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