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Original Visitor's Question from a 13-20 year old Female
look! =D i know it's probably gettinmg annoying everyone asks the same thing!! i'll skip lines, i guess it will be easier for you to read =D
i'm confused, i don't wanna learn to flirt, or to
get close to anyone, i already am. But ,... =S
you see i have a VERY close guy friend, i know everything
about his X and his family problems. Although we talked
about how unffair it's going to be for the next girl whos
going to be his, i want to be that girl! =$ hehe, it's
unffair because he said he'll never love anyone as much as
he loved his X, she's special. but i'm terrified of losing
him as a friend, i want him as anything, but more as mine!
you see i KNOW if we just stay friends i'm gonna be so
jelouse of whoever he ends up with =S, he makes me feel
like the most important girl in his life, and does a lot
to show it, i don't want things to change. even if it's
almost like a bro. sis. relationship, i'm NOT his sister
so i CAn do SOMETHING about it, right?(he does flirt alot)
(encouragingly) but my society doesn'y really approve of
boyfriends and girlfriends. he knows my parents and he's
gonna meet them soon. probably next month. it's the first
time i get a crush on someone AFTER getting to them VERY
well =S (that sounds stupid in a way) but i feel like it's
more than a crush, sometimes i can't wait for our usual
daily phone calls to complain about things, but then i'm
so happy t talk to him, i don't want to complain anymore
=), he still talks about his X, it bugs me but vry little.
see i believe that when ur inlove with someone, even after
it's over you'll never forget that person, and he always
talks about how much he used to love her, it makes me feel
like i'm never gonna be up to that level. and i don't want
him to become all mushy and gushy if we ever end up
together! i wanna be treated exactly the same but with
that special attention =P lo0L u probably know what i
mean. any ways he lives like 2hours away by plane =S
we met at sumer camp. i miss him SO much it's the end of
nov. and i haven't seen him since the end of july.
everytime we talk i wanna see him more and more, i can't
wait to hug him!! he was the nicest guy in camp and helped
me with some problems, so i feel VERY safe around him,
like he's my personal protector.
should i just wait till we're old enough to be together
with the approval of my parents who are following the
society, and my arabian cultural beliefs? but when that
time comes what should i do? and for now, how can i get
OVER HIM? at moments i am, but i don't want to. i feel
like with this attitude i'm never going to settle down.
and i'm the type of girl that likes to gain my guy. i mean
i would hate it if a guy tried to get close without me
wanting that, or like if i never ever thought of him likle
that and he tried, i'd Hate him! (wierd huh?) but what if
he's like me in that way, he might think i'm a total freak
for thinking of him like that. Magazines are always
analyzing people through test results, can't i do that but
on a more proffesional level? your level ? =D
it's very complicated =S but please try to answer me as
soon as possible, i'll try not to do anything stupid.
oh yeah i'm 15 (more accurate?)
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
spend time with him a lot , let him noe u ,when he really noe u hteres a chance he might fall in love with u
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