The Popular Boy Seems to Like Me
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Original Visitor's Question from a 13-20 year old Female
I still have a crush on this guy that I have liked since I was a sophomore in high school. He is so sweet, and of course he is the athletic type, and a ladies man. (so, as you can guess all of the ladies just fall all over him and swarm like bees to him). Of course I know that he can have any girl that he wants, but for some reason, it seems that he doesnt' go for the 'high class' or 'popular girls'.
ANyway, as I've said before, I've known him since the 10th grade, and at the time we would email one another and casually talk when we saw eachother. When he used to see me in the halls walking with other guys, he would look at me like something was wrong when I smiled at him to say hi (I don't always say 'hi' when I see someone, I usually greet them with a smile). Anyway sometimes if I was doing work for a teacher or attending to my own affairs, he would leave the group of friends (female/male) and come over there to speak to me. (I could just feel everyone watching us as we talked-like it was forbidden for us to talk or something!)
He always flirts with me in an aggrivating way (like mocking me or trying to make me mad). Since we've taken the same class two years in a row now, I could always feel him looking at me from across the room-and sure enough he was. In our science labs, he would come over to my group and try to tease me by taking his paper and waving it in my face then pulling it back to him when I tried to grab for it. When I began to laugh saying he wasn't being fair, he laughed too. (I actually saw him smile!)
Today, we had direct eye contact (we usually do) but for some reason today was different. We looked directly in one another's eyes and I saw him or I saw something special about him rather. It was like he was actually telling me that he really liked me. When he flirts with me, he never touches me, but with other girls he does. One time when he emailed me, he told me that 'his life really wasn't all of that'. I even mocked him by telling him that he could have any girl he ever wanted and he told me that 'he couldn't have me so it didn't matter.' (He wanted me? I couldn't believe it-infact I didn't because I thought it was a line and a lie)
When he told me that he kept looking at me to see what i would say, and I told him that he really didn't want me-I wasn't apart of his class. It seems as though all of the popular girls are just bold and come up to him and begin flirting, but when he flirts with me he always comes up to me or initiates it. Sometimes when he sees me he won't even speak, he'll just look.
Is something wrong with me? Does he really like me or is he just playing games, trying to see if he can get me-like he does every other girl at my school? When I tried to ask him if he liked me over the internet, he didn't write me back-infact he didn't write me back for months. All I really want is to hear him tell me that he likes me from his mouth. Please can you tell me, I am really confused about the signals that he's sending off.
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
thats what happen to me in high school
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