A complicated Situation
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
so my ex and i dated for 8 months and we recently broke up due to trust issues and we were fighting every day. we both love each other he's told me and i told him. but thing is i lied to him more than enough times over stupid things. i want him back and i told him im willing to change. yet somehow someone keeps telling things that aren't true and he gets mad at me cuz he thinks im lying.
i told him if i didnt love him i wouldn't be changing for him. he said i'm done with you, i can't trust you. and now i feel like all my work i've done to change is for nothing.
i really want him back yet i don't know how to do it. i need your help. i've wrote him notes, i've made peace with his friends. i've just been so honest with him lately. i need help getting him back. please.
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
Never Change for Someone
Never NEVER change for anyone!! You are who you are, and it's like I always say... If you can't accept me at my WORST, then you don't deserve me at my BEST!!! I am sorry that this guy won't take you back, but stiffen that upper lip and smile!!
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