I am confused..and I am cheating!!!
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I am into a relation with a guy since 3 years..met him in college.but I always had unexpressed love in my heart for my childhood schooltime sweetheart.I knew he also loved me..but we both were too young to feel responsible enough to express our love..so we could not make it happen...he went on with his life n had an affair with a girl in college..but ended with a breakup!!
now nearly after 5 years..he has expressed his love for me..n evn i luv him..!but my present boyfriend loves me so much that i am unable to tell him the truth..i cannot hurt my present boyfriend for he is such a caring guy and he wont be able to handle it..his life will be ruined!but it feels like i am cheating on him by not telling him whats in my heart.
i am unable to decide whether i love my childhood sweetheart more or whether i have care for my present boyfriend more..whom should i be with??
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Male
Take the Risk
I have been in your exact position before...
What George said pretty much capped it all off.
For me the choice was, stay with a caring girl friend that would never do anything to hurt me or take up with the person i loved who was potential risk to hurting me greatly.
Looking back on it now, i wish i had gone for the girl which i truely loved cause then i would of given myself a fair chance of being truely happy!
And the reason i stayed with current GF was because i felt it was a safe bet and wouldn't get hurt, although i was never truely happy and more sad at the fact i was stuck in a dead end relationship....
so in the long run, if the girl i loved really did hurt me, it would of been less painful then forcing myself through something i didnt particularly want.
I hope you see what im geting at, its always better taking the risk...
What doesn't kill us, will always make you stronger in due time..
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