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Original Visitor's Question from a 13-20 year old Female
I have a long message, so here I go...
Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 7 months now. I am a Scorpio. He is a Gemini. I love him so much and he says he loves me too. I am sometimes in a wierd sort of mood that get's very angry and I flip out on him for very little reasons. I am always sorry after, and he always forgives me. Lately, it's been pretty rocky.
The other day, he told me he was going to spend the night at his friends house. I believed him.
My mom went to the store to see her friend that was the mom of this bratface at school. She said my boyfriend had spent the night last night with the bratface's brother.
My mom called and told me what had happed while I was at his house. I got off the phone with her, and I gave him an evil eye and asked him if he went to the bratface's house. He yelled at me and said "I cant believe you don't believe me!"
My dad called back and gave me a couple of pretty good facts about this. I didn't want to believe it, but I did.
I asked him again. He admitted that he lied. I said it's okay (even though I was crying) and we were considering to take a break. CONSEDERING. I went home early because my parents were angry.
I called him on the phone a while later and talked to him. I had assumed that my parents hated him, so I told him.
I didn't hear from him for a couple hours. When I would call him, he sounded monotone and depressed. It was somehow decided that we weren't going out anymore, just taking a break. Neither of us had broken up with each other.
He told me he wasn't going to the Thursday night party, but he did. I followed him there, only to relize by his friends that he went home early.
The next couple of days, we had talked less, and he wouldn't call me, I would have to call him. I have called him alot these past couple of days. Maybe too much.
The other night, we (my mom and I) went out seaching the town to see if he was actually telling the truth about taking a nap. It had been six hours since he said he called. We drove past his house to see him through his window watching TV or something.
I called him the next day and wondered why he didn't call me the previous night. He told me he couldn't call because his parents didn't want him to pick up.
My dad and his dad were good friends, but my boyfriend had told me his dad hated my dad and called him an idiot for hated his son like that.
I told my dad. He called to explain things. It seemed like everything was fine.
I called my boyfriend and he was angry that I had 'lied' and said my dad hated him. I didn't lie. I assumed that he did not like my boyfriend anymore. Turned out, he was just upset that his daughter was lied to.
Now, my 'boyfriend' is leaving to see his grandfather in Italy and won't be back until August 26. He leaves Tuesday 31.
He says he'll call me back, but he doesn't. He says he's eating dinner, but you don't really have dinner at 10:00 pm.
I'm scared to lose him because I love him so much and I want to show him how much I love him.
What am I doing wrong? What can I do to prevent him from leaving me?
My parents say to not call him at all, to make him call me wand want to talk to me, so they have prevented me from using the phone.
I need some advice on this. Please help me!
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
Leave Parents Out
My parents did the same, they wouldnt allow me and my boyfriend to see each other but we did, and turns out my parents were right about him he ended up cheated 4 times, during the relationship, but i still didnt appreciate them be involved with me love life!
now im talking to some one else im scared to let them meet him, i dont want this one to be like the last one,
leave your parents out of the relationship...
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