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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
Hi there's a guy that has been sending messages to my mobile for about 1 month, I know this guy for a while but didn't know he liked me until then. We've been going out more frequently with other friends several times and now he's sending me messages almost daily talking about anything, he has never told me he liked me or so but it's obvious, he has made comments and sent clues. Besides his cousin told me he is really interested the thing is that he does a lot of business travel, so his cousin told me he's getting things straight because right now because of his business he can't have a relationship. So the thing is now that I've started liking him a lot and considering him an option as a boyfriend so should I just wait or should I bring up the topic or what should I do?? 'Cause I don't understand why did he even started all this if he knew that because of his traveling it would be difficult for him to have a girlfriend. Another question that I have is why doesn't he call instead of messaging me?
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
my best friend of two years turned into my current boyfriend of almost 14 months so far. he always texts me just like your friend does to you. my boyfriend's reasoning behind it is that it's better to answer a text if he's multitasking or bust at the moment, and it's better to text so that he can have time to think and put his thoughts out in an understandable, concise matter, he's also a computer sciences nerd and doesn't talk about much about anything other than computers, so it's better for him to think a bit.
who knows, maybe your guy is nervous that he'll choke up while talking on the phone or afraid that he'll say the wrong thing to you. next time he texts you just ask him why he doesn't call you sometimes. or just call him you yourself, that's what i have to do with my boyfriend. take the lead, you sound confident enough to do so.
And if you are worried about the traveling for business ordeal, if it's only for a short amount of time (not endless amounts of years) the time away could strengthen your friendship and turn into a relationship when he comes home. Or you could try a long distance relationship, but that will take a lot of strain and effort from both of you. Try solidifying your friendship more and see where it takes you. :)
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