He's changed all of a sudden...
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Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I've known this guy I have a huge crush on for four years. He and I have always gotten along well. so well in fact, that it seems like he has feelings for me too.
Back when we first met, he had asked a close friend of mine questions like 'am I single' or 'am I interested in anyone?' Two years later, my friend later told me about this. That's when I took notice of how he acted differently around me: he would always act jokingly with his friends, but around me, he would become more polite and a little awkward. he would often hug me multiple times, even when we only talked for two minutes. whenever we talked within a group of friends, he would keep most of his eye contact on me. I consulted my friend about it, and she said that she could see that there was something between us.
A little over a month ago, I asked him if he would like to go to a school dance with me. This was my first time asking him to a formal event. Unfortunately, he couldn't go because he had plans. Despite that, we seemed to be growing stronger feelings for each other: whenever we talked, he would sometimes randomly grab my hand, let go, then grab it again. he would lean in closer to me. and he even sent me a random message on Facebook making sure I was still going to the dance. Then, five minutes before the dance started, he called me and told me his plans had been canceled and that, if I was still going, he would go to the dance with me. We went and had a great time together. I noted how I had never seen a guy, not even an old boyfriend, go through so much just to make sure I was okay. I felt for sure we would become a couple.
Then, the week after the dance, he suddenly became distant. Now, whenever we talk, it's always short conversations, and he always seems clammed-up and uneasy. I notice him staring at me from the corner of my eye, but when I turn to look at him, he looks away. I confronted him, asking if I had done anything wrong or if I had upset/angered him at all. He said I had done nothing wrong, smiled and grabbed my hand. I thought this would make things go back to normal, but they haven't. What does this mean? Has he suddenly grown shy and awkward around me, or does he not like me at all? What should I do?
P.S. Sorry this was so long.
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
Talk to Him
I believe he's either hiding something from you or wants to tell you something ( it may be negative OR positive ) but just doesn't feel ready. Try to talk to him a little more and slowly ask if there's anything he wanted to tell you. I may be wrong but i've had a problem like this with my best friend who was a guy. Me and him spent time together for years as friends until he became friends with this really mean guy who got into a ton of trouble. We barely ever talk anymore and he always ignores me when I try to say hi... :( I hope things work out for you.
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