A Manipulative Girlfriend
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
Everyone in my family liked my girlfriend at first but as the relationship has continued, she has not only insulted my family by saying she doesn't like the way we spend money or I don't treat her as well as I treat my brother so I should either treat him differently (IE worse) or treat her as more of my family which she is not yet. All of my friends here at the university think I should break up with her as do my brother, sister-in-law (My girlfriends best friend from growing up) and my mother who calls my g/f a manipulative bitch. The problem comes whenever I try to break up with her, I never can because I feel as though I don't have a good enough reason to. I know I can easily be treated better but she is trying to change that (after we discussed) and she has made enormous improvements. Now the problem comes when she wants me to cut back smoking (which I know is healthy for me anyway) but I am not ready to. I don't want to. I can do it if I wanted to but if I don't, the relationship is over.
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