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Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Hi I am twenty years old and i am currently dating this guy i have known since fifth grade and we have been dating for a year and a few months now. We are in a long distance relationship. He lives in washington I live in Tx. When we first started dating i had just moved out of my house so i was living with my best friend and i went out and partyed a lot. And he would get very upset and mad at me that i did that(he is really mature and no in to girls who drink all the time), and i pretty much just ignored his feelings.He still treated me like gold even though i continued to go out, eventually he got really upset about it and i stopped. But recently he has just been thinking about it a lot and i have moved back in with my dad, and he is upset at the fact that i talk to him all the time now since im not with my friends. So now we are in this never ending fight he hates me but loves me, and pretty much wants to get me back for treating him like shit. I really do not know what to do. I want to make this work i just am at a loss on how to do so.
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
It sounds like he cannot make up his mind. I'd suggest asking him what bothered him about your going out with friends to have a drink, and what bothers him about the amount of time you are spending with him. You could come up with a solution, such as allotted times you talk to each other and allotted times to go out and socialize. Either way, find out why he changed his mind.
It might also be good to discuss why he wants to get back at you, as that really is showing a lot of resentment - it might be time for both of you to just apologize to each other, and wipe the slate clean.
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