He Pushed for Marriage, Accused Me of Cheating then Cheated Himself
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I'm 20 years old and I've been together with my boyfriend for about a year. Three months after we began dating he asked me to marry him and I said yes. Shortly after that he constantly accused me of cheating, saying that I was being too polite towards customers at my work so in his eyes something else was going on, ect.
I tried very hard to prove my love and loyalty to him. Three months after asking me to marry him he cheated on me with a woman we both worked with. I felt so hurt and stupid when I found out he did it all under my nose, with a friend of mine none the less! I have cut off my friendship with that woman but I don't know what to do about my boyfriend.
He apologized after he told me, but then wanted to forget about it. Everytime I've tried to talk to him about how I feel he gets very angry and makes me feel like I'm a bad person for not forgiving him. I still love him very much and have been trying to deal with this but I can't seem to completely forgive him. What should I do?
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
I have been with my husband 4 years right after I found out I was pregnant with my 2 year old is when it all started @ 1st he would go through my phone then it was i was gone to long then it was I saw u with a man in town an called me everyname in the book ect.I was at home all day long he never saw me....It just got worse an worse...
Then one night I went to see my girlfriend that really needed me and he said I went to see my boy-friend we started fighting an he chocked me 6 times I passed out 3 of them times...I almost died an he didnt care..
He did love me but he made hisself believe his lies he was telling..He ruled my life I didnt have any friends anymore I was not to talk to no one at the store unless he was there..
This might not be you sweeting BUT you are only 20 years old i guess an you have your whole life ahead of you I know its hard cause you might think you love him but he will never change if he already cheated on you and now putting you down it only gets worse get out before its to late sweet heart you will be so much happier as the months pass you will get stronger I promise you that I have a man now that treats me like im his princess and never says anything hurtful to me....
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