We often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions.
Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
What's your opinion on this?
Is there a chance that a relationship with a handsome man who you've known for years work when you're not beautiful? Or are the odds not great, as there are a lot of other women always after their good looks?
User Submitted Advice from a 41-50 year old Male
Glow from within
My sister, there may already be a problem when you begin to question your own beauty. This will always give an upper hand to a male predator. Beauty is with in and that is what we men look for. Yes, outer looks will cause us to approach you, but the inter beauty will cause us to want to stay and learn more.
Be who you are and allow that beauty within to shine as though you are glowing. I would much rather date a lady who knows herself with an overflow of joy and happiness than to deal with a lady who continue to struggle with her own identity.
If you don't value yourself as being a queen, than why would you expect a man to do so? Set your standards high, and expect the best; and guess what, you will receive what you expect.
I don't know who this man is that you desire to get to know better, but it do not matter how long you have known him, if you want to take this thing further, you better go in with confidence. And, if this is a true friend, leave it alone and let it be.
Life offers a large pool to choose from out in the world, why destroy a valuable friendship? Use him to catch your next prey... for better words... I hope you are better than that! Happy hunting!
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