She Keeps Cheating on Me
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Original Visitor's Question from a 13-20 year old Male
My girlfriend and I got together in high school 2 years ago. We have since fallen deeply in love... I don't know what I would do without her. Since she is one year older than me, she currently lives in California, I live in Washington State. Next year, I will be attending college 20 minutes from her, and I'm really excited about our future. Nobody makes me happier than she does.
Here's the thing. She has cheated on me twice before, and now she has revealed that there was one more incident recently. The first time, according to her, was a short kiss instigated by an old ex of hers. She apparently instantly stopped him, and told me right away over the phone. The second time, she said she was extremely drunk ( she never pukes, and she was this night), and was again kissed by a guy. She told me about it right away.
I'm lost now because I really love this girl. She's for me. But if i keep on letting this slide, i fear that she won't feel that there is any sort of negative outcome from cheating. All of my signs point no. In my mind, i shouldnt keep on with this. I feel left out from her life and I feel like shes changed in ways that i cant see, being so far away. But my heart can't end this right now. There's so much to look forward to. I just need advice from an outsider. What Should I Do?
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
To be completly honest with you...she will continue to cheat. I was the same way with my ex of almost 4 years. I didn't sleep with any of the guys I cheated on him with but I did fool around with 5 people. I regret it to this day but I am in a new relationship and I am having the same problem only I am cheating on him with my ex. It is like some sort of addiction. You really need to sit down and talk this out with her because for all you know she could still be cheating on you since you live so far away.
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