why can't we get along?
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
my bf and i have been talking for almost 2 years and have been dating and living together for less than a year, when we first met i was also talking to another guy but i didn't tell my current bf, and he found out later. we worked through that and are still together, at first that drew us closer to each other and we decided to get pregnant, now here i am 6 1/2 months pregnant and all we do is argue. he constantly holds that over my head and nitpicks all the time causing arguements. he will come home from work and argue with me because the house isn't spotless, or any other piddly reason he can come up with. i don't feel like he loves me anymore. when i try to turn him on he usually tells me he is too tired to have sex or he will tune all his attention to the tv and completly ignore me. i don't know where to go from here, we are both expecting our first child and i feel like he regrets getting me pregnant even though it was planned, in fact the last arguement we had he told me he wished i wasn't having his child. we had talked about getting married before the child was born, but the last time it was brought up he told me it would be a cold day in hell when he married me. i feel like he hates me and i am just at my witts end trying to figure out how to please him anymore.
User Submitted Advice from a 31-40 year old Female
Don't focus on the past
I feel he's acting that way towards you because he has found someone else and he's the one doing the cheating. So no matter what you do to be loving towards him, he won't acknowledge it because his "eyes" and heart maybe somewhere else, but because of what happen in the past, its easy for him to use it as an excuse for the s--t he's doing. You have your whole life ahead of you, don't focus on the past when your future still awaits you.
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