How to stop the insecurity stoking
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Original Visitor's Question from a 41-50 year old Female
I have been in a relationship with a guy for 2.5 months. We have very different personalities but enjoy much about each other.
About him - he loves attention - and insists on being able to be the star - and he flirts - not to a sexual point but enough to make sure he is being paid full attention - it varies depending on the audience. He nearly breaks his neck checking out babes. He keeps his photo on facebook and messenger (a very sexy photo in his underwear) even though i said it would be more appropriate to change it so as not to be sending the wrong message since we have now been together for a bit- he said if i was bothered he would block me from seeing his profile - and he does get lots of "Wow you're hot notes". He says I need more confidence and should be able to deal with the attention he gets.
All of this of course upsets me and I am being told - he loves me and I am the best partner he has ever had, but that I have jealousy issues.
On a recent vacation he went swimming naked at 2 am while drunk with a lady 20 years his senior but who was very interested in his stories. - He insists that he didn t take his underwear off and that he would have dismissed her if she had tried to touch him.
During sex he doesnt like to kiss so much and it is decent sex but quite impersonal and he calls it sex never love making.
The part i find the hardest though is his constant mentioning of any gal who finds him sexy, cruises him etc. Last night his horoscope said he is very seductive this week, and so he says - I better check out who I am meeting up with this week. Is this all a game to make me super jealous - I just find it inconsiderate? Is he in or out - seems he just wants everything.
Would you bother?
User Submitted Advice from a 41-50 year old Male
avoid the drama
I cant believe any girl would want to be with this hot dog. He is so into himself it stinks. It bothers you because it would bother anyone. If his self image is suffering so much that he has to constantly pump it up with other girls then you need to see the writing on the wall and avoid the drama. Maybe he's just feeding that gigantic ego he has. Ur not happy so why stay in an unhappy relationship. Hes out for sure and he has alot of growing up to do.
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