Temptation to cheat?
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Original Visitor's Question from a 41-50 year old Female
I've been married for a year but our sex life has been declining before the wedding and stopped completely on our wedding night. I don't know what's going on, my husband doesn't initiate sex, nor responds to my advances. I tried to talk to him but he's not willing to talk. All I heard was that he's sorry and he wants me to know it's not my fault. we are still affectionate, we kiss and hug, we are great friends and are silly with one another. there is just no passion whatsoever. i have a high sex drive and i'm going crazy. A couple of days ago I stumbled upon my ex boyfriend. we dated for a couple of months years ago but it ended without closure and before we even had sex. he suggested maybe we should have that one time, since he's getting married and moving away soon. i love my husband very deeply and i don't want to hurt him but the idea of having the night of a one time wild sex with no strings attached is very tempting. plus- no one would ever know. i can't go much longer without sex. i've been using a vibrator but i need a man. and, in a way, my ex would be just as much a tool as a dildo. should i resist or go for it?
User Submitted Advice from a 31-40 year old Female
What George said is absolutely correct, the sexual urge in men is a basic instint, and if your husband does not feel the urge to have sex, then by all means go and see a councilor, and figure out what is wrong, and then tell him the options.
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