He Doesn't Love Me Anymore
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Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
My boyfriend of about 4 months and I just recently broke up. We had been off a bit because it was summer and we never really saw each other even though we live in the same town. But he was making time for other people, and claimed to have no time for me. When we talked about it, he said he didn't love me anymore. I was more upset than I ever have been about anything. The next day I felt achy and sad, but it seemed to improve over the next few days and I felt good and totally back to normal. Then all of a sudden I started crying again, and now every little thing reminds me of him, and I just want to start breaking down.
I'm 16, he was my first kiss, my first love, and my first heartbreak. And I even lost my virginity to him. But I was OK with all of that because I was definitely in love with him. But it really hurts me that he just kind of stopped loving me, and it makes it worse that up till the night me broke up he would still tell me he loved me. And I just can't turn it off like that, because I still love him and I'm still in pain over this. I just don't know what to do with myself anymore because all I want is him, and I know he doesn't want me. I don't even think I can rebound because even thinking about another guy makes me sad.
All my friends say it will get better after a while, but none of them have been through a breakup with someone they loved. Either they are still with their guy, or they never loved him. I feel totally lost, and I don't see this getting better anytime soon. I have to see my ex in less than a month, and I don't know if I can handle it. I feel like the next time I see him my heart is just going to break all over again. What am I supposed to do with myself?
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
Move on the best advise i have for you is to move on...there are plenty fishes in the sea..and thrust me there is someone out there looking for a girl like you ok...if it was really love he wouldnt have fallen out of love with you ok so just forget about him as he did with you ..i know that your hurt but, your spoiling your life just thinking about it and him...its ok.that is just the begining in life you will go throught heart aches and disapointment but thats know reason to let yourself down for something he did ..........yours truely jojo.
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