Trying to prove you love someone
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Original Visitor's Question from a 13-20 year old Male
My girlfriend doesn't always believe me when I tell her that I love her more than anything and that I want to spend the rest of my life with her. What are some ways that I can prove to her that I DO love her and want to spend the rest of my life with her?
User Submitted Advice from a 41-50 year old Female
They have feelings
I am not a professional, but was married for 24 years and it ended badly. He was abusive. Now I been dating a man for over 2 years and I do believe he loves me, but he to came from a bad marriage and seems he is doing the same to me as he did to his ex. So proving to someone you love them is a big thing to me. The words I love you come to easily. Its the actions that count. Keep your promises, help around the house, dont put one and other down expecially infront of others even if you think its just joke. Words can hurt. Spend time together. If your watching a movie together, dont fall asleep sit up and pay attention so you can talk to each other. Believe me, my wedding is coming up and having second thoughts. Seems since I said yes things have changed. He is not as attentive, he seems to be tired all the time and will not go to the doctors. Sex is no longer cause he either falls asleep or when he is ready I have to go to work or its way late and I need to have some rest for the stressful job I have and for health reason which he is very aware of. So please dont inform people that if they need to prove their love then the other is ensecure. Many have been hurt, many know that saying the words and acting like you mean are two different things. I feel that if you truely are in love then treat the other person as you would want to be treated and remember they have feelings also.
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