He wants me to move and get married but I have doubts
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Original Visitor's Question from a 41-50 year old Female
Ok- I have been dating a man for 3 yrs. He is 27 and I am 32 with two kids that are not his. He is very loving to my kids. I am in school and he wants me to move to another state with him when I graduate and get married. These are the issues and arguments I have with him that are giving me doubts...1. He only works to make enough money to get by. 2. When I am mad or sad he says "you have nothing to be mad or sad about. 3. When we are out he seems more interested in other girls that are around than in me. 4. Even though he knows i have two kids and I can't go out every weekend- he insists on making that a priority every weekend. 5. He chooses friends that don't work and have no goals in life. These are my main issues with him. He says he loves me and that I am the girl for him, and he show through his actions of sticking by my side and he never giving up on me. But I feel unhappy a lot and I don't want to be in an unhappy relationship, but at the same time he in a way makes me happy at times we share a similar sense of humor and we laugh at shared jokes and are affectionate with each other. Please give me some advice
User Submitted Advice from a 31-40 year old Female
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