is she the one..?
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Original Visitor's Question from a 13-20 year old Male
i think she is the one...and i think she is "perfect"..i care about her..and i love her so much...but am i "too young" to really know?i love everything about her...but i wasnt sure about us at first...and i cheated a couple times..but i really wish i hadnt...i told her a couple months later...because i didnt want to hurt her..but i couldnt live with the guilt...i love her so much...and i want to be with her forever..and she feels the same way about me..we met over the internet..and havent met in rl yet...but we are soon...and when we're 18 or 19..were going to get married....she asked me not too long ago...we both love each other very much...but will it last..? she means everything to me...and i know i have done wrong...but i dont want to ever cheat on her again..shes the only one i want..but..again..will it last..?...and...the only other problem is that if i break up with her, or if she breaks up with me...im going to commit suicide...and so will she...i dont think life is worth it without her, and i think she IS the one..but im not sure...although i really hope she is...because i want to be with her for the rest of my life...every day we find more and more in common with each other..and any time one of us does something wrong to the other...we fix it, an it makes us stronger....but i want to know for sure...weve lasted 5 months....will we last 50 years..?
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Male
Don't make promises
I agree with George,if you feel serious about suicide,talk about it with your parents. With you being as young as you are and not meeting her in real life yet,things may not work out,and only being your age and being together 5 months,yall shouldnt be talking about marriage. Things can change quickly. You have your WHOLE life to look forward too and will most likely date and find someone else. Long distance relationships dont work out that much,its better to be with someone that you have met and will get to see alot. You havent met her so its just like a talking relationship and thats it. You can stay in this relationship but dont be making promises that yall will always be together or get married when yall havent even met. I wouldnt put everything into this relationship....maybe after yall met and are older,get more serious
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