you have never heard of anything like this!!!help me!!please!!
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
i am 22 yeras old.i was never in any kind of serious relation(i mean love) with any girl.i had many crushes but later i felt that they may not be my kind of girls.also i wanted to love a girl when am mature.i met a girl while doing a course.within 1 week i was in love with her.i told her that i love her.she said she cannot commit as she suffered a break up with her boyfriend.and the reason was caste.i felt that she was true to me.i told her that falling in love with someone is not wrong.and i understand her.we were together for 15 days and we became good friends.she was very happy all this days.and on the last day before we part she said she loves me.i was in heaven. i told her that i will lift you up.she said ok and we parted.she worked in another state.and the day she reached there she began to act strange.when she reached there i phoned her and she was crying while talking to me,and she said we could not live together and i deserve a better girl.i tried to cheer her up...and when i phoned her again after one hour she said she was in a bar and some guys were talking to her loudly.i felt something wrong and i hang up the phone.when i phoned her at night i said its ok to go to a bar but she could look after herself.she said she know how to do that.we became vey happy and talked for 3 hours that day.next day she phoned me in the evening and asked my permission to go to one of her friends(a boy)and stay there at night with his family.i said i believe in her and allowed her to go.that night when i was sleeping i got aphone from her.some guy was talking loudly and i couldn't hear her voice.i felt bad and i phoned her again in the morning to ask her whats going on.she said her engagement was done forcefully yesterday and was again crying.she almost begged me to no ask her anything.later that day she again phoned me.that time she was ok.she said the a different story about her past and present boy friend.she said that guy from different caste was the one actually engaged her last night.she said she doesn't love him and if she had to marry him she would better die.i told her she is very much disturbed and lets talk later.all my friends and family says she is a fraud.but i am the only one who talked with her.i feel that she is in some big trouble and i should help her.but somehow i also feel that if i started loving her more now she will be in trouble again.i think that she is not strong enough for a relation. so i didin't phoned her again and she too didn't phone me after that.i feel that i go forward in this relation it will only cause trouble to both of us.but i also wish if she explained to me everything.i love her so much.i feel sad every moment without her voice and touch.but am cannot accept her if says she had gone with a number of guys.what to do???
User Submitted Advice from a 41-50 year old Female
Listen to your head
Move on, find another woman who is genuine and honest. You guys haven't spent much time together to build a lot of great memories or to even get to know each other. You are in love with someone you don't even know. These things happen I suppose but also listen to your head and logics.
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